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How to Please Your Dominatrix

What makes for a successful session? How should you prepare to best please me? After all, we are here to have fun. So let’s put your best foot forward and get yourself ready to serve me as best as you can. I am literally giving you the ins and outs of how to please a dominatrix because I want you to succeed. There is no half assing servitude, I want the whole ass.

 

Expectations and Clearing that Mind

Starting with clearing that mind. Are you a well-seasoned and experienced sub? Good for you, but do not come into our session imposing what serving a dominatrix is and expecting me to be your past Dommes. Every new interaction, every new connection deserves a clear and open slate. Arrive with an open mind as to what may happen. Create space in that mind so that I may fill it with my control and power. I will rewire that mind of yours, molding and shaping it to my liking.

If you are reading this, you are well on your way to your best servitude. Get to know me better, by knowing my preferences, kinks, fetishes and quirks. Read everything on my website and the things that I link to on my website. Impress me and know my every rule and desire to best please me.

Shutting Off that Phone

You are a slave to your phone every day. Whilst I enjoy sharing my toys and playing with other Dommes, I find it rude to be interrupted by phones. Nothing else matters. You have an allotted time with me and I intend for you to make the most of it. Put it on airplane mode and out of sight. No phones are allowed in subspace.

Arriving on Time

You hear it all the time: do not waste a dominatrix’s time! Which means, do not come late as that will cut into our session time. Depending on how my day is booked, that means you are forfeiting precious time serving me as I will need to honor the next person and end the session on time. Same goes for the contrary, do not come early. I may be wrapping things up with a previous session and it would be awkwardly rude to walk into that. I understand life happens, traffic, helping old ladies cross the street, etc. do let me know ASAP if you are running late and what your estimated time of arrival is.

 

Food and Water

Eat and be hydrated prior to your session. Do not overdo it to where you are uncomfortable or gassy or messy. But be sure to have energy to partake in rigorous activity. You may be nervous, but coming to me on an empty stomach to where you are unable to do anything or distracted by your own grumbles does not serve me at all. On the contrary, eating a full meal prior to serving me would leave you expending your energy on digesting the heavy meal. I do not enjoy the smell of alcohol, nor do I enjoy being around those who are inebriated. I want to see you under my complete control and not from something else.

Be sure to eat something of actual sustenance, not like a donut or cum or whatever it is on the bottom of a dominatrix’s shoe.

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What to Wear

I will be meeting you first in a public space, so wear something that does not offend the general public and is a good reflection of myself. Yes, I will be seen with you in public. Do not embarrass me with horrid fashion choices. Unless you have been given further instructions on what to wear discreetly, underneath your everyday wear – you may wear clean civilian clothing. No stains, sweat marks, etc. I want a clean canvas.

What to do With What You Wear

Not that you will be wearing it for long as you will be a blank canvas before me. As such, you will be required to fold your clothes neatly and put away. Never had to fold your clothes before? Learn before you come to see me. I want to see corners and creases, something proper, presentable and acceptable for my eyes. Always wanted to be a service sub, maid or butler? This is a necessary skill and life skill that everyone should have. You may refer to this page to see my expectations.

Things to Bring

A first impression makes an impact. Show me that chivalry is not dead. Be courteous, be generous and be kind. You may bring me a gift. One of my love languages and I will speak to you in my other – spending quality time. Lucky for you there is no guessing involved as I’ve made it easy for you and created a whole page on it here.

In addition to gifts, if there is a specific thing you’d like to play with or an outfit you would like me to wear, you may bring it as a gift. If it is your deep fetish, your desire I should like to see your passion for sharing it with me. Seeing how easily controlled you are by it, fuels me with more power.

If there are things that you like to partake in, specific items that you like to play with such as but not limited to: diapers, panties, chastity, latex, leather, dresses, pantyhose, wigs, impact toys, dildos, etc please bring these items yourself. As a professional dominatrix, I of course will have my own toys, but bear in mind, I do not carry every size and brand imaginable that would fit you, so if you are a sissy or like diapers or latex or into feminization or anything else uniquely specific like a plastic bag to go over your head – bring your own.

Hygiene

Clean yourself! Hygiene is very important. Yes, some of you may worship my sweat and smell but do be mindful that I do not like to be in the presence of yours. This includes taking a shower, ensuring your nails are clean, wearing clean clothes. Arrive cleanly so that I may soil you myself. Keep in mind that even though you may not be planning to have your clothing soiled, things may get dirtier than anticipated or completely trashed and torn off of your body; be sure to have something else or walk the walk of shame.

Brush your teeth. If you find yourself lucky enough to breathe the same air as me, note that I prefer to breathe the air and not what you ate nor bad breath. Intoxication of smell can work both ways and I deserve the best air quality there is.

Cleaning that bum hole. Sure you can wipe your butt, but did you do a deep cleaning? This page here will walk you through how to properly cleanse yourself from the inside out. If you want a dominatrix to play with a toy, give them a clean toy to play with.

Tribute

Tribute is to be in cash. Sure you sent the deposit electronically, but I prefer the rest of the tribute in cash. Be sure to bring the complete tribute minus the deposit in a white envelope. The envelope is to be left unsealed. I prefer tribute to be in the highest denominator, aka hundreds. Which means, take care of this early on and not stopping by an ATM right before you see me and getting a bunch of twenties. Yes, I like fat stacks, but one makes me feel luxurious and the other makes me feel what you are to feel when you suck dick for me. Got that stack in an envelope? Place that tribute on the dresser. Bonus points if you tip prior to the session even starting.

 

Tipping

Tip your dominatrix, aka me! Yes, you’ve already paid my rate, but you may climb up the ladder and rank of subs by tipping me as well. Tipping me shows me that you are invested in my happiness, well-being and self-care. Tipping me prior to the session is bound to make it a good time, putting me in a happy and excited mood, which could be dangerous for you, my toy.

We all know that the drop after a session can be intense and very raw. Tipping me allows for a softer day where I can go to the spa, get a massage or buy time away from work and the hustle. Even something small that pays for my nutritious meal is appreciated. Tips can be given with the tribute at the beginning of the session in the envelope, directly after the session, or anytime electronically via my payment methods.

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Can’t Wait?

I know you are eager to serve and please me and yet the time cannot go any quicker until you are kneeling before my feet where time itself stops. However, until that time comes, you may fall deeper for me by subscribing to my fan page, binge on my clips. I love seeing binges and your devotion to serving me. Whatever you do, do NOT mention serving me in person on any platform. It goes against the Terms of Service of all platforms and you put me at risk of losing a stream of income by getting my account shut down. Have a burning ache in the pit of your stomach that you just want to satiate with some acknowledgement from me? You may send an email (not through any platform but my actual email) along with tribute attached.

Ready to Serve

You have read it all and are eager for more direction under me. Good, now let’s see how well you can impress me with the first step of completing the application to serve. It is your first impression, make it a good one. 

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