With the ebbs and flows of life, your dominatrix also experiences the ups and downs. It’s inevitable! And yes, you may see her as a perfect Goddess without any flaws in life, but even she gets sad for various reasons (like lame and rude people on the internet, her car broke down, technology is taking over the world, etc). There are multiple hats a submissive must wear in order to please your dominatrix. Whilst she is down, the last thing she may want is questions from others about what to do. So let’s plan ahead for a rainy day and create a care package so that you are ready to shine some light onto her darkness.
It is always good to discuss this with your dominatrix while she is in a good space. Bringing this up, shows her that you care and are invested in her happiness. You are there to make her life more comfortable. With that conversation you may co-create a specific curated list or protocol to cheer her up, highlighting your very own skills that she may find use for or funny. Again every dominatrix is an individual and whilst one may not appreciate something done, another may love it. So here is a general list of things to do.
Feed your Dominatrix
Whether it is cake, chocolates, a burger, whatever – feed her. Comfort food to comfort her, duh. More times than not, people just want to eat their sorrows. Eating your favorite things is like a warm hug for your belly. What to feed her? As a submissive you should be attentive to all of your dominatrix’s personal favorite things. But if you are newly serving her, check out her website. She might have put up little bread crumbs as to what her favorite restaurant is or what her favorite chocolates are. Find out all of her favorite goodies and put it together in a cute gift basket. Or order her take out from her favorite spot. Instacart her groceries for her; I loathe grocery shopping and it’s the absolute last thing I want to do if I were exhausted. You could learn how to cook her favorite dish, but if you aren’t a chef – now is not the time to experiment. She deserves the best!
Notes to your Dominatrix
Words of affirmation mean a whole lot right now. Sure she hears them all the time, but at this point especially they somehow speak a lot louder. No, don’t go on saying all the things she hears all the time either. This right now has to be specifically for her. Only special notes that make her feel seen. Something that you inherently notice about her as a person – not just that she’s pretty or smart. Give specific examples and instances of each one. Elaborate on them and make them authentic. You’re not a general Hallmark card. Bonus points for the ones that attach a tribute with it.
Jokes for your Dominatrix
You love the way she laughs; her smile is what you live for. Now do what is necessary to bring it back. You can get her sense of humor from just talking to her or scrolling through her Twitter feed. You’ve shared many things that has made her laugh before, recall on them and combine them with more vanilla things. Anything like a humiliating task would probably make her think of work or you being selfish because you would want to do it. Instead, put her first and make it something unrelated to sex work and cute and cuddly or soft. Does she like photos of cute cats? Does she love photos of dogs? How about some funny memes or xkcd for your nerd dominatrix. Or suggest a funny TV series that she can binge.
Massage the Dominatrix
Lube her up! No, not with your hands. Ha, remember this is for her – not you. Nothing is ever for you. Nothing is more relaxing and nurturing than calming down those nerves with some strong hands. Provide her an escape from her mind and release all the tension in her body as she does for you by paying for her massage. Better yet, make it a full day by giving her a gift card for a full spa day. Even better, pay for it twice so that she is able to bring a friend to cheer her up. Now that is a selfless act that every submissive should live by.
Flowers for the Dominatrix
Play with the senses, that’s what she does with you. By sending her flowers as a chivalrous gesture it can cheer her up. As they are soft on the eyes and smell divine. Bonus points if you put in extra effort and made it a special bouquet with her favorite flowers. No, this isn’t the time to buy flowers from the grocery store, she deserves the best! Now is the time to put in extra effort in everything that you do…which you as a submissive should do every time you serve. Who knows, when the flowers die and she’s happy again, she may just throw them at you for a job well done.
Gifts for the Dominatrix
I mean gifts at any time is a great surprise. A way to celebrate, a thoughtful gesture and especially a way to comfort. Perhaps she has placed some items on her wish list that are particularly helpful for when she’s down. No, this isn’t the time for lingerie or sex toys (that’s for celebration or just because gifts). This is now the time you get her things she will cozy up to and use, like a tea set, blanket, robe or anything soft. This is to cheer her up, not to get you off. I personally look around my space and see all the gifts that were given to cheer me up and my heart still sings when I see/use them. Even if I’m not at a lull, it’s a reminder of how adored I am and I sincerely glow. Check to see if she has a gifts page on her website to give you more guidance. My good pets shop here for my wish list.
You can go above and beyond by doing all of these things to cheer her up. Or you can do the ones that you think would be most effective at cheering up your dominatrix. Regardless, it is putting in the effort that shows her you care for her well-being and not just only choosing to worship her when she is at her best. Like that quote, “If you can’t handle her at her worst, you don’t deserve her at her best.” If you’re looking for ways to hop on up the rank of subs, this is a sure way to get you to the top.
What’s your favorite way to cheer up your Domme? Or if you are a Domme, what’s your favorite way to be cheered up?
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