Fear, It Controls You
Does reading a post with a title like this already make you pause? Were you apprehensive about facing a truth, fearing it might overwhelm you? Perhaps, the thought crossed your mind that I possessed the ability to delve into your innermost thoughts and expose them for all to see? Fear, dear pet, is an innate instinct that dwells within us all. Yet, understanding how to tame its fervor and perceive it through a different lens grants you the power to master it. Moreover, by embracing the concept of fear personified, you allow it to assume a form that guides and influences you.
BDSM, Playing With Fear
Surrender the reins to Her, permitting Her to steer you towards a more profound comprehension of fear and the means to wield it with mastery. Open up and share your vulnerabilities, She will use that arsenal to challenge you. Confront your trepidation, a tribute offered at Her feet. She is your motivator, show Her what you are capable of and willing to do to please Her. There are multiple ways to play with fear, but the first step is making that hurdle and getting there before Her. Which arguably is the hardest step. Below is a list of fears you may encounter in your BDSM journey of submission to Her and my responses to them.
Busting Myths, Balls and Fears
- Fear of saying your desires and BDSM fetishes out loud and accepting them.
- My question for you is, “Yes, and? What do you see on the other side once you’ve accepted this part about you?” Focus on that answer.
- Fear of being too ugly or too overweight to serve a beautiful Goddess.
- Your looks have zero contribution to how you will serve me. When people write they are good looking it’s actually a yellow to red flag for me that their ego needs to be beat down. Hoods are a fetish leaving me with a faceless gimp for me to control. Overweight? Nothing like serving a fit BDSM Domme who will whip you into shape. Sometimes receiving a little push and motivation to make some changes in your activities and eating habits to serve Her better is what you truly need. Fitness is a fetish, worshiping her sweat never tasted better.
- Fear that you aren’t kinky enough or a BDSM newbie.
- I learn something new from everyone! So what if I have done this fetish before? Or a professional dominatrix for 4 years? There are so many versions of BDSM fetishes and kinks that it’s always a unique experience. I prefer you to not be as kinky because then I can corrupt you with all the dirty things I dream up for you and imprint new fetishes on to you.
- Fear that She has so many slaves, what could you possibly bring to the table?
- Every relationship, connection, interaction is entirely different. You will never be like another submissive to Me, nor do I want you to be. Do not compare yourself or shy away from the stable of Her slaves. If you do well, you may find yourself among them.
- Fear that you don’t have enough funds to serve Her.
- Whilst financial domination is one of my favorite fetishes, as long as you do not negotiate Her tribute rates, it’ll be alright. Serve Her in whatever financial capacity you can and she’ll see how hard you are trying. She may allow you to serve Her in other various ways to compensate – this is all entirely up to Her discretion.
- Fear that She will toss you aside when She is done playing with you.
- Express what you need in terms of aftercare and furthering your servitude. If you do not communicate what you need, She will never know and you will end up feeling tossed aside. Abandonment is a fetish and something you may end up exploring to overcome.
- Fear that She will judge your kinks and fetishes.
- Do your research to ensure that your kinks and fetishes align. Even if it is a kink that She may not list, respectfully inquire and you’ll be shocked at the times that She may be willing to give it a try because it is intriguing to Her.
- Fear of rejection.
- If you completed her booking form in an intentional manner and followed her procedures to the T, were respectful and timely – I don’t see a reason why She would reject you. If you haven’t heard back from Her, I recommend sending a message with a tribute to get Her attention. Once She’s already been playing with you for some time, take a deep breath and delve into rejection as part of your play. Rejection is just another fetish you can try. At this point She has been playing with you and you have a D/s dynamic you are comfortable with so playing with something that is a sharp sting, could help you work through it.
Embracing Fear and BDSM As A Part of Yourself
These fears can hinder you from fully embracing life’s opportunities. Permitting them to weigh heavily on your spirit only serves to intensify their grip, wouldn’t you rather be under Her grip? Consequently, you might find yourself grappling with guilt for harboring these inclinations in the first place. It’s essential to understand that BDSM is not inherently negative; attempting to suppress and ignore them may only exacerbate its impact. Instead, consider embracing this aspect of yourself, allowing it to be a part of your identity and fostering a sense of wholeness. Rather than shying away from fear, why not explore it through a lens of fascination and allure? Embrace it as a facet of your being, allowing it to coexist harmoniously with the rest of your complexities. As you do so, you may discover that fear, when viewed from a different perspective, reveals a world beyond the murky haze, where clarity and a breath of fresh, divine air await.
Conquer Your Fears, Book a BDSM Session
Embrace this process and let the captivating essence of a Goddess guide you towards confronting and transcending your fears. Book your session now and overcome your fears. If you can do this, you can do anything. That meeting? Piece of cake. After doing this, you’ll have the confidence to excel at whatever you do in your work life or personal life. These sessions will change your mindset, give you a fresh perspective and push you to be your best self. Still need further convincing? Read “The Power of Vulnerability” by Brené Brown.
Have another fear that I didn’t address? Comment below!