Humiliation is so broad! It differs from person to person and is so unique that it strikes a certain chord with every person. What one person may find humiliating another might find intoxicatingly hot. There’s also a fine line one must tread with humiliation as it can be easy to cross over into degradation, especially if you know the person quite well. Humiliation is there to destroy one’s dignity and in turn, humble them. Degradation on the other hand is to treat someone with shame and disrespect. Keep in mind that while we are here to play and it’s all fun and games, these types of pain hurt the ego and the mental/emotional state rather than physical body. These could leave bruises that take longer to heal, which a top cannot see. Communication from both the top and bottom is crucial when playing with humiliation or degradation to ensure it is just play and you are not completely destroying their fundamental sense of self.
Let’s get to the juicy stuff, questions burning a hole in your pants:
What do people find humiliating?
Does humiliation turn them on?
Why do they want to be humiliated?
Isn’t the world already harsh enough, why would someone knowingly choose to be the brunt of more of it?
What do you get out of humiliating someone?
Does it turn you on to humiliate someone?
Is it sexual or psychological?
What’s the most humiliating thing you’ve done?
What is humiliating? What is humiliation?
Rule 32, if you can think of it – it is a thing for someone out there. Think back to what has happened to you where you were embarrassed. I’ll provide examples of my own from my early childhood years that have shaped me: A boy I had a crush on pulled down my pants while I was on stage during a play in the first grade. I accidentally kicked someone in the balls in the fourth grade whilst playing kick ball – that might have been humiliating for him; and forever seared into my mind as my first CBT experience. As a teenager, I was obsessed with a dance move which I did in a crowded restaurant causing a waiter to spill a bowl of hot soup all over himself. Another time in my teens, I was with my girlfriends and we were curious to see what a dick looked like. So we convinced a few boys to take off their pants for us to see, we proceeded to point and laugh at ones that looked puny and funny shaped. In college, my friends drew dicks on each other’s faces if they were asleep and definitely did not tell them when they had awakened. There are many things that have happened throughout my life, but these ones are truly seared into my brain. Memories that helped shape me into the dominatrix I am today.
Does humiliation turn the individual on? Why does someone want to be humiliated?
For some it does, for others it doesn’t. Annoying answer right?! Welp, that’s how we humans are – annoying. Some people can only get off when they are being humiliated. Some want to relive that moment of hurt and reclaim their power. They are entering into this scene with another consensual trustworthy individual to carry out a specific fantasy, they ultimately have the ability to stop and end the scene when they want to. Now there’s an opportunity here in a safe container to relive some version of an event from the past and move past it. This could be a very healing moment for them. Healing it may look like facing it head on and changing your perspective on it to derive pleasure from it – announcing that they now no longer live in fear of it but embracing it.
Isn’t the world already harsh enough, why would someone knowingly choose to be the brunt of more of it?
When you come into this with a certain light hearted playful manner – it isn’t harsh at all. It becomes an innocent, or shall I say innersin-t, type of fun. Some will do ANYTHING to make others laugh. Laughter is the best medicine and if you can’t laugh at yourself, well then we have a lot of work to do then. The level of harshness is only a perception of the mindset. Now, when an individual enters in a humiliation scene or a scene mixed with humiliation and other various kinks, they come out the other side as a lighter being. Because they know that if they can survive that, the world is a piece of cake. What can be harsher? The sadistic mindset of an evil gorgeous woman or the world around you? Step into her dungeon and see for yourself – dominatrixes give you perspective.
What do I get out of humiliating someone? Is it a turn on for me to humiliate them? Is it sexual or psychological?
I see it as the ultimate fun! An opportunity to flex my creative brain and come up with unique experiences that are once in a lifetime. I literally get paid to do this to people – which in itself is already an aspect of humiliation. Not only do I get paid to laugh, I also get high from the power that I receive from it. I rarely get turned on humiliating someone, it is mostly a psychological fun thing for me. Although there are a few instances where I didn’t know that I would get so turned on and my panties would be soaking wet from it. I’m exposed to so many different fetishes and kinks that I don’t know if it would turn me on until it does. Again, dependent upon the situation and the person or persons I’m doing the scene with.
What’s the most humiliating thing I’ve made someone do or have done to them?
O my, juicy one indeed. Several things but there is one that I have done recently that takes the cake. Full Toilet Training (FTT) is always a good humiliating thing to do. Literally make someone eat your shit. You don’t have to consume, but eventually if you’re a toilet – you gotta flush it down somehow. I mean after all – they get the privilege of being underneath my bum and seeing such an intimate part of my body relieve itself. But what can be more humiliating than that? Combining it with cuckolding. I enjoy mixing and blending several kinks together to make a cocktail so gross only the most effed up ones would dare to not waste a single drop. Cuckolding is another form of humiliation where the lady denies a man of having sex with her. The cuckold, typically her husband or partner because it stings more that way and instead has sexual intercourse with a larger well endowed man (the bull). So how did I combine cuckolding and full toilet training to humiliate a sub of mine? Well, I’ll leave the details out here as I am a lady and you’ll just have to book a session with myself and my bull to find out for yourself.
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